Be Yourself

Photo by Heidi Huber / California

Photo by Antonis Giannelis / Greece

I found these photographs on Divine Caroline as part of their photo contest "More Wedding Photos We'll All Remember." (Definitely worth looking through the entire collection!). I wanted to share them because I think they illustrate an important point - you may be dressed up, you may be surrounded by everyone you ever knew, but you will still be you and your spouse will still be your spouse so DON'T WORRY! Try to relax, enjoy your special day and remember that it is just a big party. Have fun and let your personalities shine. Don't sweat the small stuff. If something goes wrong, just fix it. If you forget your line, smile and ask the officiant to repeat it (or look at your hand). If your cake falls over in transit, have a friend run out and buy your favorite childhood snacks for everyone. Your wedding may not be perfect. Life isn't perfect. You two can weather any storm - that is why you are getting married!

Let it go

Many brides report that they felt disproportionately sad or angry (a la bridezilla) when something went awry on their wedding day (and something always does). Instead of obsessing over the fact that the topiaries are in the wrong place, the frosting is the wrong color or the programs didn't get distributed just LET IT GO. Your wedding is an amazing day - an opportunity to spend time with friends and family and to enjoy all of your hard work. Think about how amazing it is to be getting married and to be sharing the day with all of your loved ones. They won't care that your first dance was to the "wrong" song or that the aisle runner was missing so neither should you. Just do your best to get everything organized before hand and then let it all go on the day of your wedding and just have fun!